Why do we lower our expectations for students with special needs?

So many of us lower our expectations when we see, teach, or interact with a child with special needs. Is that really helping them or is it hindering them? If they learn that people don't expect much out of them, why will they strive to be the best that they can be? I see it so often with students with autism, learning disabled, ADHD, and other disorders. Just because these children have a disability that may make their lives more challenging, doesn't mean that they aren't capable of same things that a neurotypical child would be capable of doing. It may look a little different or their path may be different, but they CAN do it. Making excuses, feeling sorry, or allowing a disability to run the child (rather than looking at the CHILD first) only hinders the child and makes them feel as if they CAN'T do anything for themselves and that they aren't worth much. Is that the message that we want to send? Sit back and think about that for a moment. The next time that you interact with a child (or an adult) with a disability, think about the way that you perceive them, interact with them, and the expectations that you have. Really stop and look at the child and get to know them. Help them achieve, be successful, and understand their own abilities and strengths. You might be surprised by how capable they are and how similar they are to you.